Life Skills & Value Education – CLASS-V – UNIT- 4 Forgiveness

              Forgiveness makes teamwork easy and working together fun.

Concept explanation

Consider this example: You and your friend got into a big argument. You are angry at him for losing your favourite glitter pen. Your friend is not ready to accept his mistake. But while are doing your friend and some saying something really mean to you which offends you deeply how does that make you feel do you think you can forgive your friends for doing such a thing a person can choose to forgive another person when the commit an offence or engage in anything wrong or immoral forgiveness is deliberate and free choice when someone for gives another person they release and pleasant emotions like resentment and anger towards them it takes mental or spiritual effort to forgive it and tales letting go off , whether direct it at someone else or it one cell punishment or preparation are not prerequisites for forgiveness it is offered with no expectation of return .

An apology may be part of the forgiveness process.

Let’s read a story to ponder upon this topic better.

A fifth-grade teacher once made a decision to play a game with the class.

Each student in the class was instructed by the teacher to bring a plastic bag filled with a few tomatoes. Each tomato will be given the name of a person that the student does not want to forgive because of something that person had done with them.

So each child brought some tomatoes on the designated day along with the names of the people they had not yet forgiven.

Some people had two tomatoes, some had three, and some even had five.

The teacher then instructed the students to carry the tomatoes in the plastic bag for one week.

The children began to complain over the course of several days about the decaying tomatoes’ foul smell.

The kids were relieved when the game eventually ended after a week. “How did you feel carrying the tomatoes around for a week?” the teacher asked. The kids expressed their displeasure and complained about the inconvenience of having to carry the dirty and pungent tomatoes everywhere they went.

The teacher then revealed the game’s secret meaning to the students. “This is precisely the situation in which you keep hatred for someone inside your heart and are not able to forgive them,” the teacher added.

Your heart will be filled with the odour of anger and not being able to forgive Which you will carry with you wherever you go.

“It’s true we can never tell who feels guilty for their mistakes or who doesn’t. It is tough to make someone feel responsible for their wrongdoings. But not Being able to forgive can make us feel even worse and more hurt. We lose Friendships and relationships when we are not able to forgive. But when we Forgive, we are able to find the beauty of friendship with them back again.”

Forgiving Others

It is not easy to forgive people who have made fun of you or harmed you in some way or the other. It is an art which one can develop slowly. Forgiving others requires a lot of patience and a strong willpower. Here are a few tips that can help you control your anger and forgive others.

• Drink a glass of cold water when angry. This will help you calm down.
• Move out of the place where the incident has occurred. Do some physical activities, such as jogging and running, to release your anger.
• Talk it out with the person and tell how you feel about the hurt he/she has caused you.
• Write down your feelings and read them to analyse if you are Justified in feeling the way you are. You may be overreacting to the situation.
• Look at it as the weakness of that person and ignore.
• Remind yourself that at times you also make mistakes.

Forgive Yourself Too

The next point is to forgive yourself when you do something wrong. There may be times when you make mistakes that you feel bad about. To get over the feeling of guilt, it is important to share your feelings with the person you have hurt. It also helps to apologise for the mistake you have made. Two friends, Srishti and Rajia, fought over a silly reason. They stopped talking to each other and months passed by. It was Christmas Eve and the school was going to close from the next day. Rajia was feeling very uncomfortable because she wanted to start the New Year happily and she would not feel happy if she didn’t speak to Srishti. After a lot of hesitation, she boldly walked up to Srishti. She apologised for whatever had happened and said she wanted to renew her friendship. Deep in her heart, Srishti had also wanted the same. So, she also apologised and they became friends again.

ACTIVITY ❖ Put yourself in Srishti and Rajia’s place and think what you would have done in such a situation. Recollect an incident when you had said sorry and felt happy afterwards. Share it with the class

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